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Open Letter to President Barack H Obama

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

President Barack Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500

RE: Fatherlessness in United States

Dear Mr. President Barack Obama,

I take the liberty to write you this letter because I sense your genuine and sincere desire to do something positive about fatherlessness in the United States. Furthermore, today you have the authority to do it. You lived with the problem, and you can see it; unfortunately, in at least two occasions you dangerously failed to define it properly.

Last year, on June 15, 2008 in Chicago at your Father’s Day speech, you offended the fathers by wrongfully accusing them of abandoning their own children. Your speech only alienated American fathers who are already the victims of falsehood.

This year, your Father’s Day speech again painted fathers with the same blames and falsehood that only created more fear in the heart of good responsible fathers. Worst of all, this year you put it totally backwards. I do not know of any place or time where communities ever supported or “counseled fathers”. Where do you get that from? On the contrary, throughout times and history; men, husbands and fathers bravely stood up and endured sacrifices to provide, to protect and to empower their wives, their children and their communities. This is the way it is in any other country. And; this is the way it has always been here before the United States was led by the last five consecutive presidents who have all been deprived of the counsel of their own fathers.

Like the majority of the children in this country, you are just a victim who may still carry the scars of the pains and sufferings of American fatherlessness. I admire your honesty about it and your sincerity for wanting to address this problem. But, you may not even have scratched the surface. Try to bring to the discussion the real victims:

  1. The oppressed fathers who are forbidden to approach their own children and;
  2. Their abused children whose access to their own dads has been denied by family courts judges.

I believe you have no idea how many American fathers would love to baby-sit their own children or to publicly display their affections for them just like you do with your own. In addition, they would also love to provide, to protect and to counsel them if their legitimate rights were not oppressed.

I believe you have no idea how many American children would love to have their own dad cheer for them on the athletic fields, for their good report cards or at the concert recitals. Like you were, they silently bear all the emotionally pains and sufferings because they have no one to turn to. And, they may carry the emotional and psychological scars with them for the rest of their lives.

The only difference between these oppressed absentee fathers and you, is a disgraceful judge decree that denied their rights and privileges to approach their own children and to be involved in their lives.

The only difference between their abused children and yours is an abusive single mother who is one of the watchdogs of the institutionalized American fatherlessness.

Your fatherhood speeches are politically correct because like many others, they acclaim the single mothers with flattery; they condemn the oppressed fathers with falsehood; and they victimize the fatherless children so that the US government can forge justifications to come to their rescue with social welfare programs that are counterproductive; and exorbitant loans. But, if we want to be honest with ourselves, we must admit that there is a huge problem with that rhetoric. It fails our children, it fails this generation; and it also fails this nation with the worst plaguing moral, economic and leadership crisis ever recorded in the history of the land.

If you want the oppressed fathers to return to their children, the U.S. government must first withdraw itself from our homes and from competing on the roles of the fathers. You inherit a political culture that has created every imaginable and arbitrary program that undermines the roles of the fathers in their families. Your White House even has a program for our wives and for our daughters. What do you want the American fathers to come back to their homes to do then? If you really want fathers to come back to their homes then, get out of the way!

Fathers did not create the problem. Your predecessor presidents created it when they sent fathers to die in foreign wars. And then, to those who came back they fail to provide the support they need to take care of their wives and children. This is how we got into this problem in the first place; and then it escalated exponentially until today when it is out of proportion – with all its fruits. When you are making your decisions to declare new foreign wars or to expand the existing ones, account for additional fatherless children among the casualties.

Institutionalized American fatherlessness is the weapon of mass destruction that the US government is so desperately looking for elsewhere. It is here on U.S. soil. It has a location: the family courts. The perpetrators are vicious judges and their greedy watchdogs. The victims are the abused fatherless children and their oppressed good responsible fathers who you have not yet brought to the discussion circle.

If it was not for the grace of God and His Mighty Hands, I would know the fate of your dad and my children would unfortunately grow up fatherless – just like you were and many other good kids. But, not every oppressed father and his abused children are blessed like us. I am encouraging all the brave purposeful fathers to join the war against fatherlessness, to withstand the adversities directed toward them and their children courageously; and to fight the good fight for their children, for themselves and for this country. You can be a blessing for them!

It seems that you know, and you care. Today, you are the smartest man in the room with the expertise and the authority to dismantle the American fatherlessness factory. The solution is not in flattery to the single mothers, nor in false compassion to the abused children and not in the blaming of their oppressed fathers. Corrupt judges in family courts of your nation are creating fatherless children faster and in numbers that exceed what World War I & II combined have produced.

American children do not care about your “Council on Women and Girls” nor do they care about another version of the “No Child Left Behind Act”, and not in any buildings and flags proclamation business. How American children and fathers will be able “to express their love, respect, and admiration” to each other when a vicious judge’s decree denied them access to each other. Your proclamation then is as good as an empty speech because it left behind and it is inapplicable to more than half of the U.S. population.  American children and their good responsible fathers want the freedom to access each other without the interferences of vicious judges and their greedy watchdogs.

American fathers and their children would love to see the changes that you promised. But, they despise the same old rhetoric of falsehood here, flattery there and victimization all over to fabricate fictitious heroes. This old rhetoric frightens good responsible dads – like me. It is the root of the institutionalized American fatherlessness. And, the fruit of it is the worst plaguing moral, economic and leadership crisis ever recorded in American history. And, the American people are eating it right now!

For this reason also, U.S. foreign policies have and will utterly fail.

Honestly, freeing the oppressed fathers and their abused children from the yokes of the institutionalized American fatherlessness is an enterprise of titanic proportion. Like the emancipation of slavery and the advancement of the civil rights movement; the dismantlement of US fatherlessness is a task reserved for the fearless and the braves.

If you can, then I am sure that the oppressed fathers will be more than happy to return to their homes with their dignity to raise courageous young men and young women who will contribute to bring prosperity back into the land. And, you will have your place in history among the titans.

If you can not, then it would be wiser to “set a guard, over your mouth; and keep watch over the door of your lips” with respect to fatherhood.  Because, your love for your own children and your convictions as a father have not yet been tried by the adversities and the circumstances that the fathers who you wrongfully accused have gone through.

The truth is what the reality is. Do not confuse my truthfulness with my respect for you as the President of the country where I temporarily reside. I would not do anyone a favor if I had to use flattery words to seduce you.

I urge you to proclaim this 4th of July 2009 the day of Liberation of this country from the yokes of institutionalized fatherlessness by declaring this day a day of prayers with reasonable and liberal visitation rights for all good responsible fathers and their abused children who are denied access to each other because of a disgraceful judge’s order. You will see how many honest little and big smiles you will have. You will know that these fathers who are falsely accused of abandoning their own children are no more than good responsible dads who are frightened by fearful speeches of political leaders and by the monstrous U.S. fatherlessness institution. This bold decision would be a symbolic gesture of yours to the terrified fathers and their abused and frightened children that they have to fear no more!

You have the opportunity to be a true hero!

You can be a blessing to them!

With truthfulness, sincerity
 and with much respect,

/s/ Gaspard Lafalaise Jr